Saying Goodbye is hard but sometimes necessary

Relationships are complicated to say the least. Sometimes we are drawn to them by history, titles given, or common ground during a major life change.

They can be filled with laughs, tears, with warm hugs and soft careful words. 

They can also be filled with hurt feelings, imbalanced caring, and a mountain of history you can’t run from. 

I have had to say goodbye to people in my life as time has gone on. I have walked away with my head down and a broken heart. Knowing it was the best choice for me but longing for a world where things could be different. 

Sometimes the relationship has slowly turned into something more taxing then rewarding. Sometimes we realize it was always bad for our soul. 

The title giving an expectation for safety, for unconditional love, for selflessness when in turn it is none of those things. 

We live in titles, mother, sister, brother, friend, co-worker, daughter, son, and so much more. The weight of the title can be anchor to the relationship. 

As I have learned to understand boundaries, to realize I have given to much of myself to many times, I have learned it is ok to say goodbye. 

It doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt, or that you walk away forgetting all the good times, you will feel the relationship deeply at times and long for that connection.

In moments of success, in moments of loss, in moments of hurt it will be there lingering in the background. 

There will be smells of a certain food as a reminder, of a favorite song, or shared concert venue. The photos will pop in your memories as a reminder the person is there living their life too. 

Sometimes there will be voicemails left, cards sent in the mail, and calls for rescue. 

Know that it is ok to say goodbye if you need the space you are giving to that relationship for yourself. If your energy needs to be giving to a relationship more balanced. 

If you just can’t give anymore. Sometimes there will be those that say goodbye to you. They may need to take a break and engross themselves in their own life. That is ok too. 

Maybe it will be healthy to find each other again and maybe it is goodbye forever. 

Enjoy the memories you can and give yourself time to heal because saying goodbye is hard. 

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